Hopeless romantic

Can a hopeless romantic be married and happy? I am beginning to think not. I think we have this ideal in our heads and when reality crashes in we feel betrayed and hurt by the one who was supposed to be our ideal! By the time we recover it is to late to save what ever there was of the marriage. When both are hopeless romantics and both have different views well it just becomes hopeless. Specially when one is not willing to see that there is a problem.